I live in the state my husband has grown up here in, and so I sent my daughter to the pre-school that my nephews and nieces went to since that seems to be the thing in his family. No problem.

I really only have one very good friend here, and she made the decision to send her sons to the same preschool that my daughter goes to - her younger son and my daughter are best friends and in the same class.

Typically what happens is that when the children are in pre-k four (they start with pre-k three), the kids start getting invited to classmates' parties, because the school is small and they all end up in the same kindergarten class, first grade, and so on. They grow up together.

Now that its January I've been noticing that my daughter hasn't recieved any invitations to parties, and today my friend said, oh, is your daughter going to Thomas' birthday party? I said no, she wasn't invited. So she said, well, probably just the boys were invited. But it turns out that her son has been invited to THREE parties already. And one of them was a little girl who my daughter runs around with every day after school!!

I am in tears right now. I can't believe this. I heard the school had tight mommy cliques and the moms can be very catty, but I'm one of those people who's just like, oh whatever. But I do get a very cool vibe from alot of the moms that I've just occasionally spoken to here and there. Also, because I just have one child, women have actually dropped me from conversation, as though having one child doesn't count! I really thought it was my imagination at first, but then it happened to me for the third or fourth time yesterday while I was speaking with two other mothers. One is always friendly, and the other I never spoke with before. But she said, do you have any kids in the upper school? And I said, no, I just have the one. Her eyes literally instantly turned to the other woman I was next to and she directed the rest of her comments to her! I felt like a fool.

I am furious right now that my daughter is being shunned and I have no idea why. I am shaking. I immediately want her out of this school and into public school next year if this is the ridiculous **** I have to put up with from these other mothers.

How badly am I overreacting?