Dating Guys with kids
Okay firstly, good onya for giving a bloke with a kid half a go.
(At least he is taking responsibility for his own)
For all you people out there who said "oh i would never date someone with kids", I hope, nay prey that you never get into a bad relationship or marriage where children are involved and the relationship ends through no fault of your own cause your partner has a lack of morals.
Met my now Ex-partner, they had 2 children aged 1 and 2, the other parent was not in thier lives, so for me it was an easy decission to make, (**** it, poor kids always the ones who get the short end of the stick) it was a little tricky at first, but once it got serious in the relatioship things started to smooth out. It doesnt matter how involved you get with the kids as someday the person in spite will remind you even after many years, that they are not your children and you dont have a say in the matter.
Thats the bigest down side, I have now found myself single and raising an 11 year old. I dont realy blame women/men for not wanting to date people with children from a previous relationship. Its not BAGGAGE you halfwits its just a whole lot more complicated.
God knows I wouldn't put myself through that again, (yes but I am not a hypocryte)
Wouldnt date someone with kids and wouldn't expect anyone else to date me with my son. (they move out eventualy)
I think it depends on the parent and what you as a person want out of the relationship.
The other lady was correct with the dicipline and how you go about it, however, if you are in a SERIOUS relationship with this person, then you should be helping to raise the child, (it takes a community to raise a child not just 2 parents, in thier case 1)
Well what ever you decide at least consider the poor childs position in all of this. That child oneday just might be your own..
Hope that helps you a tad
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