I just read both your and Kayler's posts. I found them very interesting but I took a different stance on what was said. I would consider the woman who is going after the married man or man who has a girlfriend as not confident in herself. She is reassuring herself by doing this, that she has sexual powers as a woman and can turn heads and is one hot woman. She is playing a game where she cannot be hurt. They already belong to someone else so she can't lose them and never be hurt. Either way she is a winner in her own mind.

Now if she goes for a man who has no strings attached and gets him then another woman could take him from her and she would be hurt. This way there can be no hurt for she knows he belongs to another woman.. She would fear all the things that she has done in life to another woman would be done to her and this keeps her from taking this plunge.

Funny how two different people go two different ways in the thought process.....