I am really hoping for some advice on my situation. I found out a few days ago that my Husband (together for 8yrs, married for 3) set up a profile on line to have an affair. His profile stated he was married and wanted a discrete encounter hoping for someone else to host. After confronting him about it because he left his email open with all of the passwords, he claims it is all fantasy. He claims he has never acted out on any occasion, but does admit he has considered it. Normally, my guy is a fabulous husband and father to our 20 month old. We have mostly had what I consider a very lucky relationship, because we get along so well....still. On one hand, I just want to leave him to teach him a lesson, but the other just wonders can he really change. He says he has a problem and wants to change. He has offered to go to counseling, a pastor, he even agreed to sign away his parental rights, if he did not follow through with his word. Can people really get better from this? Can I learn to love and trust him again. I want to try I guess, but I am just not sure if it is possible to let it go.

A bit of his history past: He has lied about going to strip clubs, he has been caught twice after he lied about it. The second time he made up the crazy crazy story about being mugged and beat up which he did have cuts. What really happed was he was so ashamed of blowing $300 he went to a park and beat himself up and made up his ridiculous story.

There is more to write, bu tI am pretty fried. Any help is appreciated!!