Hi Hayley.

Firstly i would be saying to you, if you ask for a promise and it's not kept then truthfully "smile" and say to yourself, "your not good enough for me"... And, continue with your journey. Imagine 5 years from now? This Thread could have been, "hi, i'm married with 2 children and my husband cheated on me".... Sometimes it truly is "better you know the devil, instead of better the devil you know.

And, i am assuming you checked his phone, hense you found out that he texted his ex. Relationships are built on trust, and unfortunately, you have to trust until you establish otherwise but most people like their "personal space" and if invaded, do the running for the same reason, they don't want someone watching over their shoulder... Just a thought there.

So, if he is texting his ex of 4 years, then perhaps he hasn't quite moved on yet from her, that is a long time and i don't think that there is much you can do when a man has "emotionally" not let go totally.

Long distance is tough to, to try to keep it all exciting and lustful as you can't spend as much time together as you need to in order to grow a strong bond, especially over a 5 month period.

You've heard the saying " there are plenty fish in the sea" repeat it a dozen times a day to yourself. You will eventually smile and maybe one day tell him when he sends you a text message because you no longer show any interest...

You don't need a man calling you names..... Unless it's sweetheart... No point feeling horrid is there.

I also read on one of these posts around here, to pick an object remember one thing you do and did not like about that person, and have that object sitting in somewhere you can see it constantly, so when you look at that object it reminds you.

You are a "woman" regardless of age, so go and "roar" like a tigeress and know that the strong, manly lion you really want who will treat you the way you want, is around the corner, and forget the outcast, so to speak....

Good luck,