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Originally Posted by alibaby
I had posted on your other thread today but after reading this, I really feel your pain. It sounds like you expect your friend to put you on the same level as his girlfriend but that can't happen, the same way you shouldn't put your friend on the same level or higher than your husband. Maybe you feel you are just being his friend, but to many people, their 'significant other' having a close friendship with someone of the opposite sex feels uncomfortable and it causes conflict. He should be making his girlfriend happy, not you. If you really care about him, leave him alone.
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I just read this one and i saw the lonliness, obviously still within your marriage as well, hense the need to hold on to this "one true" friend.
I agree with this reply, you are fighting against the other woman and she must see that friendship as a threat.
I also however wonder how lonely he is, and suggest he should not be married as he has developed a bond of friendship with you, now with this other girl which he has entered into a relationship, all whilst married.
Perhaps, you just "need" badly that type of friend, the one you can share everything with. If it happened once, it will happen again.
You said you shared a lot of emails and you came to this Forum, not sure if you still are around but therefore, try chat sites that you can be-friend people like My Space as your name isn't tied into it nor your email address and get to know people, develop friends.
Even if this man did not pick up with a girl 22 years his junior, he is still married and the communication you would want would be on-going which a married "friend" can't or should'nt really be giving, unless his wife is also your friend. You need single friends in your life and chat sites may just help you get out of yourself a bit more.