Originally Posted by Fallen1

Thanks Caroline and Chandler for your kind words. I apreciate them very much.

I would also like to add comment to the one poster who seemed to be placing more blame on the women involved. Funny how it seems the females are always the ones that get the worst wrap in these kind of situations. It's not really fair when you think about it, as the old saying goes "it takes two to tango".

As in my case, it's not always the women that are the aggressors. When the circumstances I was involved in came about, I had no interest whatsoever in pursuing this man for the main reason that he had a family. He had been a good friend and that's all the interest I had in him. I never had the intentions of starting a relationship. Had he not made the first move nothing would have ever developed. Although BOTH of us are to blame equally for the situation, I ended up being the one that got the "black mark" on my reputation and he is still living happily (by appearances anyway) from what I hear with his wife.

I happened to run into his sister in law a couple of weeks ago at a restaurant and she called me over to see how I was doing. One of the things she said to me was "I don't have any bad feelings towards you at all, I know who and what he is". She proceeded to tell me about how she was showing her wedding pictures to a friend back a year or so ago and this woman pointed at him in the picture and asked how she knew him. When she told this woman it was her brother in law the woman's response was "I'm so sorry. You know he is nothing but a womanizer". She then told me that she would bet he was still cheating on his wife but had just gotten smarter about it.