One good thing is that my present man knows about this affair and I don't feel like I'm hiding anything about myself from him. He became a friend of mine back when the affair was still going on. He was the one I confided in and listened while I expressed my guilt for what was happening. He was even the one that let me cry on his shoulder when it all came out in the open and the "sh*t hit the fan". He stuck around and continued to be my friend and things eventually evolved into what they are today.