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Originally Posted by Fallen1
Thanks Caroline and Chandler for your kind words. I apreciate them very much.
I would also like to add comment to the one poster who seemed to be placing more blame on the women involved. Funny how it seems the females are always the ones that get the worst wrap in these kind of situations. It's not really fair when you think about it, as the old saying goes "it takes two to tango".
As in my case, it's not always the women that are the aggressors. When the circumstances I was involved in came about, I had no interest whatsoever in pursuing this man for the main reason that he had a family. He had been a good friend and that's all the interest I had in him. I never had the intentions of starting a relationship. Had he not made the first move nothing would have ever developed. Although BOTH of us are to blame equally for the situation, I ended up being the one that got the "black mark" on my reputation and he is still living happily (by appearances anyway) from what I hear with his wife.
I happened to run into his sister in law a couple of weeks ago at a restaurant and she called me over to see how I was doing. One of the things she said to me was "I don't have any bad feelings towards you at all, I know who and what he is". She proceeded to tell me about how she was showing her wedding pictures to a friend back a year or so ago and this woman pointed at him in the picture and asked how she knew him. When she told this woman it was her brother in law the woman's response was "I'm so sorry. You know he is nothing but a womanizer". She then told me that she would bet he was still cheating on his wife but had just gotten smarter about it.
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Vulnerable/Nieve:-
How many men do we know that fit into that catagory? Not boys but men, not one but both....
We all know that a woman becomes more of a woman as she ages, in all aspects of her life, statistics prove so. it's written.
Young, we are not only vulnerable but nieve in many ways..
HE SAYS:-
"I love you" - actually i said that to get into your pants
"Your are so gorgeous" - same thing, will that do it
"I have never met anyone like you your incredible" - bet you are in bed to.
What was that saying? "ONE TRACK MIND"
Words of a man when your young, are what ever woman lonely, in-secure, needy, down and out, having left a bad relationship so desperately want to be heard, loved, desperately..........
Stands to reason then that we will "jump" at those words and possibly, those who are totally complete and happy would see through them, but not if you are vulnerable or and, nieve you are in a completely different state of mind at that point.....
Yes, i to found a post on here hard to take. It is always the woman...
Yes, it takes two, but the above as long as i am alive, holds true in almost each case, unless she is a preditor and loves control, having what ever she wants and just takes it and she is out there to, but more percentages of those situations are like above italics.
Take On-line dating..... Women do not go on there because they are desperate...as they will be seeking all avenues of looking for Mr Right, they are seeking....
But if they are vulnerable and recently been through any of those "italics" and are not strong in themselves then they will not see those italic highlighted words above and get caught as well by the preditors seeking divorced women, seperated women only, as you tick those boxes and seek to "get them into bed" use and abuse, seeya. And, some of those guys are married.
In that instance, they may not even know... but they may be blamed as well, if it occurs and established.
Men are buggers if they want it, and they see one ounce of lonliness, un-happiness, hurt, they will pray on, of course, only if that's their nature to do so. But there are a lot of them out there.
I imagine you felt great when you were told that story by the sister of her brother-in-law and the response of another lady. In other words, "the truth always comes out" eventually....
Sounds and seems though that this relationship is special in your life, so past is past, present is present and future is future... No need to keep going into the past, it's one of lifes lessons, love your present and have a ball in your future i say....