
03-27-2008, 09:11 AM
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Junior Member
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Houston
Posts: 16
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Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH
When people drink every day it is in my opinion "to feel good" and often they don't feel that great during the day so need that release but it can become like everything an addiction.
Lots of people i know it's industry related and stress but one of two glasses a night is where they leave it.
But putting in "ground rules" is like living with mum. Talking it through to understand each other's feelings about it may be better, if you can openly communicate. Not why do you, but so how's work, try to see if there is something there that he's actually unhappy about and offer support.
And maybe, create things a couple of times a week, like the pictures and a sport whereby there is no room to drink on those occasions instead of putting in a rule as a "reverse phsycology" type of thing where he is unaware that's what's happening. And have some fun together see where that leads.
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Thanks a lot for your advice,
Sounds good but to tell the truth I did talk to him way before i put a rule
About the drinking and that’s when he wasn’t really caring what I would think.
I know that putting a rule sounds more of a mom rule then a girlfriend’s way of asking
For a change…maybe it’s the idea of why I know his reason of drinking so much that makes me hate the way he drinks…I do try to have fun with him all the time I ask him to work out with me and to go out dancing or something but to him is not fun…. Its him and beer or no fun at all…. As for me I cant drink I have a kidney infection that stops me from a lot of “his so called fun” but in reality drinking isn’t me anymore and the main reason for me having a kidney infection is the alchol… so I don’t know I guess he really dose need help from a doctor………
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