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Originally Posted by loner33
He does know what is going on, but does not know what to say. He works for the family. There is one leader in the pack. And I have asked what the problem is, and of course she says nothing. Actually it has gotten so bad that we stayed back from a family vacation w/all of them so that he could run the farm. They are very closed minded people.
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Well, i can only say then that this is your life, and that of your husband's and childrens.
What makes it hard that he "works for the family" and maybe it may be worth while considering a career change.
You could ask her to have lunch with you and say, let's sort this out like two adults, it can remain the way it is, or be a happier journey for all of us.
I don't know if the other "sister-in-laws are married as well", and alls okay there, or whether you were both young when you got married, perhaps she felt threatened back then, maybe your home is better, i don't know what the problem is..
But, you at least within your own household need to be loving and happy, at least on your side of the family that is there.
Sometimes if things just can't be resolved it creates a distance but better the distance remains there and you concentrate on your inner family and be happy.
Hard to say, is he the only "brother and younger", perhaps she feels a connection and hasn't been able to let go of the "baby brother"...
I also hate to say this but i know unfortunately, some familys are just that a family and don't like to let others in. Regardless of time.
In fact, my ex-husband's Aunty and Uncle refused to put our name in the marriage book, as he changed his, they stuck with the old name and blamed me for 5 years, but it was his decision due as he didn't get on with his father who died when he was 5, he was physically abused, so didn't want to carry that name any more with his life.
It's strange how people think.... I know