I am currently going though the exact same situation with a close friend of mine. She is always in long intense relationships that always seem to start good and turn out ending horribly. She dated this one guy for 2 years and he was on drugs, was controlling, was abusive and just an all around loser. Time and Time again I would have to hear about all there drama, and I had to literally stop talking to her untill she broke up with him. Now were goin on round 2 and shes dating loser number 2. He text messages one of our best friends the other day saying that he was her ex bf now and that he wanted to hang out. HE was trying to hook up with one of our best friends and was lieing about being in a relationship with my friend. HES SUCH A LOSER. I tell her all the time. but she just keeps giving him second chances when he keeps on treating her like ****. it really bothers me and i feel as though i have to disconnect her from my life again because I can only offer so much sympothy for her when she keeps putting herself in the same ****ty situations. you should just be real with your friend and tell her that she doesnt need a man to justify herself. and if she simply cant see the obvious point it out for her.