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Originally Posted by Dollface2008
I am currently going though the exact same situation with a close friend of mine. She is always in long intense relationships that always seem to start good and turn out ending horribly. She dated this one guy for 2 years and he was on drugs, was controlling, was abusive and just an all around loser. Time and Time again I would have to hear about all there drama, and I had to literally stop talking to her untill she broke up with him. Now were goin on round 2 and shes dating loser number 2. He text messages one of our best friends the other day saying that he was her ex bf now and that he wanted to hang out. HE was trying to hook up with one of our best friends and was lieing about being in a relationship with my friend. HES SUCH A LOSER. I tell her all the time. but she just keeps giving him second chances when he keeps on treating her like ****. it really bothers me and i feel as though i have to disconnect her from my life again because I can only offer so much sympothy for her when she keeps putting herself in the same ****ty situations. you should just be real with your friend and tell her that she doesnt need a man to justify herself. and if she simply cant see the obvious point it out for her.
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HE was trying to hook up with one of our best friends and was lieing about being in a relationship with my friend. HES SUCH A LOSER. I tell her all the time. but she just keeps giving him second chances when he keeps on treating her like ****. it really bothers me and i feel as though i have to disconnect her from my life again because I can only offer so much sympothy for her when she keeps putting herself in the same ****ty situations.
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All I could say is that I am going through somewhat of the same situation that your friends are going through so I could speak for them. I am just trying to finish with a 8 yr relationship but I will need to wait and see how that goes. I just can't seem to let him go!!!!!
Anyway, you girls should try to be supportive and understand them. Not to say that you girls aren't but just thought I would thow that out there. Please try to help them as much as you girls can. Right now I need as much help as possible and having friends that are there is always greatly appreciated.
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I agree mvaldez.
There are lots of reasons why "friends" can't see the writing on the wall so to speak, but at the end of the day, they may not want to. Until, they are ready. There can be a fear of being on your own, a fear of self worth, lots of reasons.
A good friend, will not judge, will not constantly tell them they are wrong, but stand by them and support them, be there when they are needed and when they need to catch them falling down. There isn't room for pity or sympathy, just understanding, we are all different people in this world.
Also, 8 years for someone is a long time, i ended mine after 7 and it wasn't easy but once i knew there was nothing else i could do to make it work, i started to want more out of life and out of a relationship so it then was easy, as i was 100% ready.
My true friends, didn't take sides but are still there for me, my acquantances, well haven't seen or spoken to them in all that time, 10 months now.
When you know you know.
As for continually going back to "loosers" there is obviously an attraction for that particular type of male that can have many reasons behind it, but again, it's her life to work out why, just support her.