Thanks for your responses,

He is a great guy,for sure.The job we have involves us needing to speak daily and work closely often much of it isolated from others.Right from the get go we both felt the sexual energy and I tried to avoid getting involved because he is a co worker(I had a rule not to be involved with co workers,so much for that!) as well I was apprehensive to start this FWB thing because of the attachment issue.I resisted his advances for months and we discussed all ramifications of us having sex.

I know there are no guarantees in life.I was married for 13 yrs and my husband died.Than I was in another relationship for 7 yrs and we broke up because he developed impotence issues due to an earlier illness.I was not the one to end that relationship.I would have stayed and worked through it but he kept pushing me away saying I would end up cheating on him cause I needed sex and he wouldn't be able to satisfy me.I never did cheat or ever would.

I have always taken care of everyone,put everyones needs ahead of mine and now I feel its my turn.I know that sounds selfish but I just want to have sex and no ties.I am very sexual,always have been and right now my co worker,FWB,is filling that need.

There may be a time,I'm sure,when I will want to be in a relationship again but not now.I'm really going to have to think about this...