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Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH
I agree mvaldez.
There are lots of reasons why "friends" can't see the writing on the wall so to speak, but at the end of the day, they may not want to. Until, they are ready. There can be a fear of being on your own, a fear of self worth, lots of reasons.
A good friend, will not judge, will not constantly tell them they are wrong, but stand by them and support them, be there when they are needed and when they need to catch them falling down. There isn't room for pity or sympathy, just understanding, we are all different people in this world.
Also, 8 years for someone is a long time, i ended mine after 7 and it wasn't easy but once i knew there was nothing else i could do to make it work, i started to want more out of life and out of a relationship so it then was easy, as i was 100% ready.
My true friends, didn't take sides but are still there for me, my acquantances, well haven't seen or spoken to them in all that time, 10 months now.
When you know you know.
As for continually going back to "loosers" there is obviously an attraction for that particular type of male that can have many reasons behind it, but again, it's her life to work out why, just support her.
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this side of it I do understand. There is a cerain point though where you cant be supportive anymore though, and thats when your friend is choosing there boyfriends best interest over yours and their own, and when they do this constantly because they are so afraid of upsetting there boyfriend, that they treat you like **** and flake out on you when they make plans to hang out because there boyfriend doesnt want to go. Ive had long term boyfriends and I have always been able to seperate my life with him, and my life with my friends. Makeing both important to me, and not just making my whole life about someone who treats me awful. And i know that love can blind this, but Im to old to have friends that treat me like this, and jepordize our friendship to stay with their boyfriends.