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Originally Posted by Dollface2008
this side of it I do understand. There is a cerain point though where you cant be supportive anymore though, and thats when your friend is choosing there boyfriends best interest over yours and their own, and when they do this constantly because they are so afraid of upsetting there boyfriend, that they treat you like **** and flake out on you when they make plans to hang out because there boyfriend doesnt want to go. Ive had long term boyfriends and I have always been able to seperate my life with him, and my life with my friends. Makeing both important to me, and not just making my whole life about someone who treats me awful. And i know that love can blind this, but Im to old to have friends that treat me like this, and jepordize our friendship to stay with their boyfriends.
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I guess the last sentence is a statement in it's own. I "choose" not to have negativity around me where ever possible, as i am a positive person and there is no room for that in my life. I also wouldn't put up with a friend whom when single is there, and when attached says get lost, to me that's not a friend as the true stance of friendship goes as there is selfishness involved pertaining only to her feelings.
So, maybe you've done all you can as a friend, and just be an aquaintance now..
There are lots of women who once attached, ditch their friends but when alone, come crawling back as they need someone to go out with, someone to talk to, and someone....
Again, if she's not willing to compromise, and catch up, even at your house, if she has that fear as i said, that he may not like her going out, or if it's plain selfishness, that she only has "eyes" for him, only wants to be with him, you don't matter at that time, until she's single again, then she's not a true friend in my books.
Admittedly, when i was married i didn't catch up as much as i wanted to but i'd sent a text, or phone but marriage is a bit different i think...
Food for thought.