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Originally Posted by Just-a-regular-guy
This is my first post... please be gentle.... 
As a male who has been married 22 years with only my wife as "past experience" I can tell you that there are guys out there (like me) who really struggle with this topic. I love getting and receiving oral sex with my wife. The trouble is she isn't thrilled with give..... what is a guy to do... because I don't get to experience that wonderful sensation... I think about it ALL the time!!! I really wish my wife felt the same way.... secretly I long for it.... I have heard that pineapple juice works well for semen taste - needless to say I drink gallons of it each week hoping....
Oh well..... keep the line of communications open on this topic... it helps just to talk about it..... though it sometimes makes me jealous to hear about all these other guys having all the fun....  |
There are so many variables in a marriage that it's hard to know where to start. I see sex as kind of like the canary in the coal mine, that is, if things are not going well in general (financial problems, trouble with the kids, etc.) it often seems like the sex life in the first thing to go.
My experience is that the wife is more likely to want to try new things if she is happy in general. The main thing a husband can do is figure out what makes her desire sex. For me it's a lot about exercise and being in shape, and also doing all the normal husband stuff like helping out around the house so she doesn't have anything to complain about. The ultimate would be for her to come home to an immaculate house, with a trail of rose petals leading to a tub with the bath drawn and candles around the tub...
I'm not saying you have to do that, I'm just saying you need to make sure everything is going well in general, then broach the subject of how she can be more "into" the sexual aspect of the marriage. Once all the elements are in place you can get into the specific issue of her giving you head. But the main thing you can do is just ask her what she needs from you in order to feel more passionate and have more desire regarding sex, and then listen to what she has to say.
And here's the "other" answer...
Women need the special bond of intercourse to really feel connected to a man. If the passion is there whey you are f*cking, that opens the door to everything else. If it's not there, you need to deal with that first. You're not just her husband, you are her man, her mate. It really is quite primal. You need to maintain and nurture that bond if you expect her to be in the mood to experiment and test her limits with regard to sucking your c*ck.
Hope this helps. Good luck.