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Originally Posted by looneytoons
Thank you for your thoughtful reply. Yes, Queen Bee knew me before we decided to go to Las Vegas. We had pleasant conversations/ exchanged Xmas gifts, etc., for over a year.After about three years of marriage, Queen Bee and I actually bonded a bit, before and after the birth of her first grandchild. ANOTHER complicated story... Her son & his occasional girl friend are the parents of this sweet grand daughter. The two are not married, they did not even date. (This was a Very Casual 2-3 Night Affair)She wanted marriage, but that's a different story.He loves his daughter & is responsible in every way a loving parent should be. Everyone loves the baby & initially, the baby's Mother assumed the role of girlfriend, almost daughter-in-law, etc. Long story short...Queen Bee was a very happy grandmother & got to keep the baby 3 days a week, while the Mom works. They baby grew VERY attached to her though, and the Mother became jealous. Plus, the son made it clear he would not marry her and AWAY she went, baby and all! Now, Queen Bee gets to see the baby less often. She stopped emailing me 2months ago, and now she's back trying to be All Important to My husband. And running the show, every chance she gets.
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Yes i am thoughtful thank you for noticing, but i take that all back now!!
You seem to know i think, and i've seen it who hasn't:-
QUEEN BEE thinks she is QUEEN BEE. So that means that she can change her story, change her pattern, change anything she wants when she wants and take over control what ever that control is at the time.
Shame, can't see that you are going to be able to change this one at all, she will be nice to you when something else is going on and she "needs you" and probably stab you in the back if she feel that she wants to and not really care when she hurts you... No consquence.
So, keep as friendly as you can i guess, not condecending or against your beliefs with her, but because you are the "stronger" person and by doing this you shouldn't be affected, to much, just on the occasions when it's your turn, as she has no one else to dominate so she will go back to your husband.
Sorry, i can't see anything else there...
Mmm, ex - fiance's mother now she was controlling......
CW