Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Where do i put this?

No doubt each and everyone of us have done something that "in our minds" we don't like, or we regret or we "cover up" because we prefer to believe that it is okay.

It is a "Woman's Forum" so lets just say that female ARE more emotional, having said that being bought up with MALES, surrounding can make you not a "TOM BOY" but "i think" more in tune with both sexes and how they think.

I also agree with comments here, that male, female, lesbians, bi, homosexual, who **** well cares, the bottom line is what we actually are as "FACT" is we are all human.

Since i can recall, we have skelatons in our closets but the real truth is" do we not learn? Be it a bad and horrible experience that we feel for if knowing, or just an experience that we prefer to forget, each is a learning curve in our life.

Make a mistake and learn by it, we did not make the mistake they did, but understand it and don't let it happen again, do something that we don't agree with but we did, so what did we learn?

It goes on and on... and there will always be a pain.

The reality, the FACT is to accept it, not cover it, not hide it, and not to not believe it happened, that is the true lesson.

Life is about lessons, regardless of why, how or that is not fair, but reality. It did so what did we learn and how can we make that not happen again, or jump over that hurdle and not let it show as eating us alive every day of our lives in our expressions and words and fears.

Jealousy, insecurity, can bring it all forward.

Commitment, strength and total understanding can take it where it belongs.

If you can, leave the past in the past, look at the present as the present and learn as we are not only meant to, in life, but have to and aim at the future.

It sometimes is such a waste, such a misconception to "fight" for the past reality, cause and effect, and try to live in the present.

That never in my "opinion" gets anyone anywhere...

Truly see the depth of reality and let it go and know that everything in life is about "learning"...

I have said before, we retain what we want to and don't what doesn't matter, sometimes we just know so we don't need to learn the meaning or words that pertain to it, we can only substain so much and it is about what matters most, not about " i must know it all" or " i must know the words" but i must "understand" and as such, if that is our interest at that time, or because it bothers us, then let it teach us.

Knowledge is only imporatant as to what we need to retain at that point, and only at that point, pertaining to that knowledge....

Never hold pain, it is a waste of energy always take it only as a learning curb, no matter age, we all learn and what a wonderful thing that, that is, if you truly think about it.

Well CW, is know to be a deep thinker and what would i want to be whom i am not?

I am happy to learn for the rest of my life, because that is ............life.......


CW