Hey Moms,
Let me first start off with saying thank you for reading this. I am struggling really bad. First let me say that I have suffered from depression for a long time. My daughter has been what kept me going since my Mom passed away 8 years ago. My daughter is 11 now. I'm serious about this, things seems like they have changed in a matter of months. You know the things like not wanting to cuddle anymore, rather talk on her cell phone to her friends, seems more quite. She used to tell me when boys in class would give her notes or if they liked her. I noticed a boys pic on her cell phone and when I asked her the deal she acted like she didn't want to tell me. She admitted that he was her "boyfriend". I asked her why she didn't tell us about it and she said she didn't want us to tease her about it. I told her I was sorry that she felt that way and that I wanted her to feel like she could talk to me about anything. Also all of her friends have started their periods already and I can tell that she will be soon by the discharge that she is having. Also oh my gosh she has already filled out down there and matureing up top. Which she tries to hide from me also. So much younger these days!!! Anyway I happened upon a book that they were selling at a big library sell. It's called "Growing up Female". It talks about starting your period etc. When I showed it to her she rolled her eyes at me and told me she doesn't want to read it and she couldn't tell me why she just doesn't want to. I asked her why she was acting so bashful about it and she said I dont know. I said is it because your not ready for it and she said I guess. Okay people I know some of you may think that I am crazy but I feel like I am loseing my daughter. I'm under alot of stress with other things but this is sending me over the top. I am really sad that she is growing up and not needing me or wanting me like before. How can I get past this? I don't want to push her away and seem like a crazy Mom that can't let go. I'm trying to hold this all in, even my husband doesn't know how I am hurting. He knows I'm acting more stressed but doesn't realize how bad. Would someone who has been thru this please reply to me and tell me how you got thu it. No one knows unless they have been thu it so please let me hear from yall. I'm really hurting and just want to cry all the time!!
Thanks so much