I as in an on and on relationship with my first boyfriend for around 14 years, the end result of it remaining of, was as a result of him cheating with my best friend..Sound's familar..

I was pretty open minded and my relationship was different, as it was "on and of" so i knew of others in between which did not effect me, but the "best friend" yep, that one did, never saw either of them again.

Funny - he told me it was "my fault", if i did not allow the three of us to hang out he would not have been so familiar of course, that's not true, as your friend should be your friend and know how to say NO, or not instigate anything because she is a FRIEND..

But does not seem to work that way in real life unfortunately, just in the way we think and expect it to be.

The only lesson there is to obviously never allow female/male friendship and alone time to come into play ever.

The fact that you found out from someone else is always the hardest in making a decision as well i think. I also did, then drove past and well...

She was boasting? So i assume it continued until you found out ?

You will have a hard time trusting, i'd probably take space anyway to one think myself for while and two see just how much he misses you and the extent he is willing to go to win you back, not a week or two either.

18 Years is a long time...

My favourite saying " If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it's yours if it doesn't it never was".

CW