I do believe as Fallen1 has said, that each situation is different, some just "smell" rat over and over, and some come out and tell what they did by themselves and ask to be forgiven, some can't leave because of children, or so they think and some just see that and other disrespects in their marriage over and over and know it's time to leave as their heart has let go, and they see and acknowledge that they deserve better.

Because of their own guilt and the need, their needs, not yours... Which is a tough call, because once hurt you may forgive but i don't believe you ever forget and certainly once trust is broken, it is an up hill battle to trust again.

But some may have made a ****** mistake and know it and would never do it again, ever, perhaps they do deserve a "second chance".. But a slow building one on trust as they prove that it was in deed a once of.

And women are emotional so our hearts are bigger and we WANT to be able to trust and believe until a seed is planted that wakes us up and makes us realise then like a little hidden camera, our minds see a mini movie and it all becomes very clear.

Reversed, the hidden camera does not show all those things but love and warmth and so we decide with that heart, to give it another go...

Or, we chose to turn the camera of and not watch it, and confuse our minds that we are right and others are wrong and ignore, until once again, it happens.....

And back.