Yes, you are right, however I was also feeling that the goal would be a lifelong discovery. Yet, actually much of what makes me me are not those things like the job or sports-car or mate, they are accessories to who I am at that time. I was more thinking on values that guide me.

My aspirations to the best me are just being discovered but some so far I'm sure of are to have a habit of a healthy lifestyle and mindset. Another is to have relationships that I can be myself and give the best of me to others in need. Another would be to never be so rigid I can not be spontaneous in changing my mind at any given moment to do what I feel is right rather than what was "Planned." or relationally find that man that makes me feel supported rather than feeling my responsibility is to provide the habitual constant support in a relationship.

I tend to give excuses to people for habitual bad behavior toward me that makes me feel hurt and defeated. That would be a goal is to be graceful in that only to the extent that I do not allow myself to become a people pleaser or unhealthy view of myself or others in the process. If I'M not mentally and emotionally healthy, NONE of my relationships will be I doubt. I need to be confident I am proud of myself in where I am, while giving myself grace that all things valuable are usually things that take lots of time and everyone's a work in process and hopefully progress to their authentic version of their best self. You gotta give yourself doses of lots of grace when needed, but also surround yourself with graceful yet honestly truthful and kind with the "hard truth" friends when needed. Friends, they have to have both grace and conviction in their pocket for you when needed. Others that are not close to you, it's not their business unless you invite them in with questions and want outside opinion. Those people can make you think about things maybe your closer friends wouldn't, but you weigh it against yourself and the friend's you feel have qualities you admire and most of all respect. Don't you think?

And there will be times where we fall and learn to get up, so we can pass the wisdom and encouragement of those falls on to others. Seems this web-site has a lot to do with that particular concept. There's a lot of grace from people who have been "human" and done things they are not proud of, but they don't define everyone by their mistakes and realize they usually come here to be on a path to a better healthier way of thinking and find support while the current struggle continues. The light gets brighter as you keep the "who you are becoming" and "who value wise you want to be" in mind and ask for help from others to let go of what has a bad hold on you. Know what I mean?