[quote][You are not both lonly people, he was married and chose to have the affair with you, she has chosen to not follow her gut feeling, perhaps as she does not want to feel the pain. The exact pain you would have felt when you were the wife and perhaps a simular pain you are feeling now. That is her choice.

He has made his.QUOTE]
Thanks for the input CW. I realize you are right everyone gets to make their own choice, and I do not get the choice to get what I want from this, they get to choose their own path. Yet, it's hard because for so long he said he was with her because she threatens to take his only child from him if she ever caught him. Yes, could be just a threat, but he sure was shook by it a lot seriously. So I felt like what just happened? Did she get so suspicious you just needed to disappear and didn't have the heart to tell me you needed to do this to keep your family. I guess I was hoping for the ideal, if he were to cut things off to actually be up front about it, not do the slowly disappearing feel. He even admitted he never thought he would ever have real feelings for me because he knew he could never leave his situation, but he did end up having feelings for me and it was tearing him apart and couldn't handle hurting 2 women. I just wish I knew what brought it all on exactly, and why he isn't in touch. It honestly is not like him. Not at all.

And again, women could you please at least do the poll? I'd appreciate it. Thanks! and thanks again CW....