Okay, so our affair ended however prior to that I was upset about his slow disappearance so I asked for a gift I had given him back and he promised it back to me, no problem. He loved it yeah, but he knew he was hurting my feelings and even more so because the item was an antique in perfect condition that he loved and was engraved with a very meaningful confirmation of our bond and lifelong friendship etc... He adored the piece and honestly it is worth a lot especially compared to my income. I really had to sacrifice to get that and I was so proud of how he adored it. But when I got the "dismissal" the wife text messaged me and said if I contacted her or anyone in her family again she would consider it harassment. Of course he is being monitored, and yes probability is he could have contacted me if he wanted about it, but I really don't think it's his top priority now that she knows. I haven't contacted him since he dismissed me 2 months ago, and I haven't felt I could contact him by any means personally because of his wife's threat to me. I don't even know if it's true that she could call harassment on me for contacting him. I would think HE would have to be the one to decide if I were harassing him or not. Obviously I'm not. The ONLY thing I have done to contact him is I called a friend he introduced me to from his guys night out and asked him to relax to the ex that I really wanted "a tool back I had borrowed a long time ago that he forgot to return." I don't know what he thought of that but still, nothing.

I know many are thinking eat crow and forget it, but I want it as that was my most meaningful declaration of our time together and I don't want it destroyed by the wife, or just plain kept by him. Because if he dismissed me, those words inscribed are no longer true since we have no relationship now. Wrong or not for my participation, I just really hurt that those words are out there that mean so much to me and I don't have them back. It feels so hurt to be completely severed in a moment from someone's life you were with so long, but then the one momento I cherish, I just really want it back. Not for spite, but because I don't think I'll love again and that was all me that went into having that done for him. I feel so sad about not having it back and he did say I would get it before the dismissal even happened. What can I do to get it back. This really hurts a lot. Everything hurts a lot. And furthermore.... read 2nd New Thread... but please respond to this issue. Thank you.