I just have the unbelievable desire to know if after the wife found out 2 months ago about our (now quite completely over) affair... I highly doubt they are going to make it honestly for many reasons. If someone files for divorce, or even a separation, does the record of the request or petition show up in the public divorce records right away or not until it is finalized? Very curious.... I know, let go, let go... yet hey, this was someone I loved, right or wrong and it doesn't just turn off all those feelings. I have had NO contact with him so I'm not being a jerk or anything, just have so many unresolved emotions since it was so quick, unexpected, and shocking like a bomb went off or something and I still can't process without ANY kind of updates at all. I mean, it feels like a death, or abduction in a way. I'm empty, he was my lover and best friend. I miss him but want to know... something....