04-28-2008, 07:46 AM
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Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale
No, it's not harrassment. Obviously she's being protective.
However, you know how it works - in divorce law gifts aren't returnable. Once something is given, it's gone. But I'm sure there are ways to get it back. If I was you I'd just ask a big guy you know to go around and collect it... Hopefully some time the wife was out.
Tell him you'll make things between him and his wife far worse if he doesn't give it back?
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Thanks for the response, I appreciate the idea to have someone just collect it. I remember your earlier post and agree, being dignified is exactly what I want to be and it's also right that if I want to get past things I just have to sever things that hold me, and that honestly is the biggest thing that is out there with any control over it. I do have the email that he gave me saying he would be giving it back, so that seems to be my only real "legal" possibility but I don't want to be legal about anything. I simply want the item back. It was purchased when I was dead broke, scrimped, saved, and spent a ton on that engraving and honestly I will use it. It was a beautiful german antique, and hate to admit but it was extraordinary and I will use it if I do get it back. It means the world to me because of the meaning behind it and the engraving. I believed in a lifelong friendship that is symbolized and it is the one item that will give me some "warm fuzzies" about the past relationship instead of hurt. The crud and pain I can be thankful for severing, but I will cherish the friendship forever even if he has chosen to end it. Thanks so much for your insight and suggestion. I've read only a couple of your posts/thread but find your insight interesting. If you care to give me the mini-version of your life experience I'd love to get an email sharing that because a male viewpoint is always good. NO, I will NOT hit on you, been there and done that but want a varied viewpoint which should be why people come here, not just to hear what they want, but to hear different things and hope it will encourage personal growth to make changes based on their own values in comparison with that new perspective. Thanks again, Miss U.
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