Yes, you are right in that I normally agree. It's just that if you can understand how I mean - it was quite they symbol of "who I was, who we were, and the bond." The inscriptions I had added are very personal and can't imagine him wanting to look at it or explain to others what it means (It was written in another language since he has visited this country in europe often.) It's so sentimental etc... and very personal and I'm sure he only uses in private or told the wife it was from an old military buddy (friendship emphasis on enscription) which also would explain the foreign language. The only others that had seen it would be his guys night out friends who play sports together. Thanks for the insight. I appreciate it really.... and you are right, I just figure it means nothing to him any longer but it means the world to me so it's almost mean in a way for him to keep it. Does that make sense? BTW - I do realize I have been wrong on so many counts, but just trying to be in the process of healing and making things better. I have a really really hard time letting go, but I'm getting help, and this forum helps, and hills and valleys are routine but I have to remember this is a healing PROCESS and not expect overnight change. Thx. Miss U.