Thank You
Hi
Thank god I found this posting,I did not understand why I was feeling the way I was.The guilt I still have is still overwhelming GUILT after placing my dad in a nursing home 7 months ago.He suffered a stroke last december and was doing great after rehab,he came to live with me and started going downhill,his mental health(dementa) was getting worse.I never expected a downfall.I thought that it would be uphill the whole way.I live in N.H and I drive to Boston every week to see him.The visits are not pleasant at times,he is angry that he is there and he wants me too take him home with me.It is so hard to say no I cannot take you.Yesterday was an awful visit,he wanted out.I do not have any family to take over and give me a break.Honestly,I do not want to even go there every week anymore,it kills me emotionally to have to see him that way.But my father is everything to me,and I feel I should do all I can for him.But with the advise you gave above,about suppot groups and counciling and learnning about nusrsing care I NEED THAT..I have to learn to let go in a way and focus on my family now.It is so hard to do.I dont know where to start.any suggestions?
Thank you
Debbie
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