It seems to me that he is saying " he can't remember" there and then, not the next day?

That i haven't heard of, i've had a few to many on odd ocassion but i remember nearly everything, usual is simple like, i don't remember where i put the keys, or simular things.

My dad loves to flirt, mum gets mad but he has never cheated nor would he even contemplate it, i think he's quite nieve really when he tells a story and we advise that she was coming on to him and he seems confused, he thought it was simple happy chatty type thing...

It is difficult to trust someone after they cheated and certainly i think, impossible to forget.

30 years is a long time, you say he only seems to do this when drinking and heavily at that, but with friends? Or, people that your friends know and disappearing.

It seems like everytime you go out, you can't walk out proudly and feel great at putting on the nice clothes for the evening, without playing "Mother" checking up on her son, only it's your husband.

Either tell him he is not drinking when you go out to partys, or your both not going, or you'll leave him one of the two, put some boundries down.

You are not going to be able to establish what has happened, or not happened, unless the young ladies wish to divuldge, as he as sure will never spill, whether he remembers or not.

Put boundries down and stick to them.

I assume you believe that this only occurs when he drinks heavily and not in general, that is that he is not cheating on you at the moment with someone else.

To be honest, i couldn't cope with that, its a bit "serial", done it will do it, don't care attitude.

I would lose respect and love and walk.

But that's me.

Good luck, if he really loves you he'll agree, as this is your life to and you deserve to be happy.

CW