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Originally Posted by addictedto being pregnant
hi DONT yell it will make him think its ok to shout and scream try talking in a deep but soft tone of voice also when he has been naughty make a naughty corner that he has to sit in till his temper calms down or the steps is another one also do a reward chart and let him know he will get something gd when hes being gd buy some stickers for it also try distracting him when hes being bad outside like (can u see any birds) it works with my three yr old hope u the best
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Hello ladies - im a UK poster . Im forty ...firstly may i disagree on something you have been discussing in these posts and that is the dreaded NAUGHTY chair ...a rediculus concept that came nfrom watching nanny 911 from England ...or whatever . This so called naughty chair , im in the opinion and many others ..(ive had many friends working and living in USA and Canada as nannies ...British nannies are very popular ) the naughty chair will give a child a complex ...trying to force a child that is screaming and crying to stay seated on a chair is cruel not to mention difficult some children especially 3 year olds ect will get so physically upset screaming being forced to sit on this chair that it wouldseem the only option to tie them to the seat ...of course no mother would do this .
It is better to place the child onto the floor in a safe area ...sit down face to face ...even though the child is screaming and crying --talk calmly and firmly not raising the voice or giving any facial reactions ...the child is reading your face for reacton ...if this dosent work as difficult as it may be stoking the childs arms with reasurring words or just being gentle ...tell mummy whats wrong ..i carnt help you if you wont tell me ...the child will carm down if you repeat it as its not expecting a CALM and gentle reaction from you .
If all else fails with the child in a safe place on floor eg...kitchen by you or near you while he or she is still crying carry on your duties in thekitchen ignoring the temper tantrum ,....talk to your husband above the crying gently and carry on as if nothings happened and eventually the child will learn to calm and stop screaming or kicking ...even if the child is kicking or hitting you sit calmly and stll hold or reassure the child ... and then some praise when calm ...good boy ..good girl ..thats much nicer now mummy can listen and talk with you ...and the reward stickers are a great idea .. the naughty chair will i think make children grow up fearing and having nightmares ove being forced to sit on this chair and feel like they have been singled out ...just end up with a complex ...dont do the naughty chair ...
Catherine x