I was in a relationship for 3 1/2 years when I decided to end it because my life revolved around my boyfriend who was boring. I would get angry when he would go out and spend time with his friends, or just feel jealous when he wasn't spending time with me. So I started dating a new guy, who I wasn't satisfied with because I always felt like he never told me how he felt about me, and I also accused him of not liking me. And I'm dating a guy currently, and I've just realized that I have trouble balancing my life when I have a boyfriend. I revolve my whole life around the guy. I always wonder what he is doing, why he isn't online, why he didn't call, if he will be mad if I hang out with certain people, if he will be okay with many of the decsions that I make. I can't help thinking this way, and it is just because I get too into the relationship and sorta forget about the rest of my life. I still do good in school (I'm a college student) but I feel like I do my homework, go to class and work then hang out with him and that is my life. And I know it is really unhealthy for me, but how do I do the things I love without having the guy on my mind 24/7? At the beginning of a relationship, everyone feels this way, but it is supposed to kinda go away after awhile. It goes away for the guys I'm with, but I still wanna be with them 24/7, and I still think about them non-stop. I get angry with him easily, and I accuse him of not liking me because I still have the super strong feelings from the beginning of the relationship.
So I am wondering what people do when they are in relationships to not be so obsessive, and not think about his every move, and how to just enjoy doing my own thing