Is It Me?
This is one of those points in which women have constantly
suffered the self doubt...it must be me.
A friend of mine, contra all the warnings, had her first
sexual experience with a guy I felt was married...
In bed, with the guy, time one, she realises he is married...
she is losing her virginity to a married man while his wife
is working.
The girl not only never had an orgasm, never had another
man, and decided she was Gay and went through a number
of women lovers...
I felt like shaking her, and shouting...YOu Did nothing Wrong!
(except not listen to me, but I left that part out) You Didn't
Beleive he was Married. You didn't think it would be your
first and most sordid moment....
But you see the problem wasn't just how ****py he did it,
it was the trailer load of **** surrounding the sex act which
so effected her....
(Yes, eventually she goes to a psychiatrist, but that's not
the point of this post).
The fact is, the whole environment surrounding sex is vital.
It's not just hype why some people go through the whole
long dinner with candles and wine and music and fancy
dress...because the Mind is the most important part in
a woman's orgasm.
Having sex in the back of car is something I never thought
of doing, and never would do...there's a furtiveness about
it that turns me off.
I don't want furtive sex, I was the bed, all the time in
the world, I want all the conveniences and all the preqs.
I can't even have orgasm with my ball & chain when he's
done something to annoy me and I'm trying for make up
sex, or forget it sex, or whatever it's called, because I
just don't feel loving towards him...(feel like I'd poke
out his eye)...
It's the mind.
And of course, the ****py technique some clowns
adopt which is such an instant turn off...
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