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Originally Posted by missyann
I'm extremely emotional when it comes to relationships--especially serious ones. I recognize and accept that it is my personality type and I tend to be drawn to men that are more dominating and a lot of times, moody. Whenever my boyfriend yells or gets angry at me, I cry uncontrollably. But I sometimes worry that my emotional state is not the normal, healthy kind of relationship state, but rather close to being depressed. Each time I go into this phase, I beat myself up and feel pretty low for whatever it is I did to him. He, on the other hand (and he's sat me down and told me this) interprets it as a form feeling sorry for myself--and that's just how I 'deal with getting upset'. I want to disagree because while I am crying, I don't feel angry at him at all--rather scared that he's going to dump me and that I'm not good enough for him. But that could also be a form of self pity as well. Ugh...who knows. Does anyone have any insights?
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Some people are more emotional than others...
It does sound like you lack a bit of confidence there..
Sometimes it stems from our childhood, no one picked you up when you fell? Didn't feel loved enough to many kids in the family? Rejection?
When you are crying, you are in a different state of mind, your not angry because your in an emotional state, not anger that's passed...
You may need to do a course in confidence building, even over the net you can do them, you shouldn't feel depressed or scared each time, waiting for him to tell you it's okay, only to go through it again and again... He is obviously a very patient person and is trying to assist so be happy there.
Other than that when your angry, why not walk away, go outside for a minute take some deep breaths, tell yourself, i'm strong and i don't need to cry... Calm down, smile and walk back inside... See if you can control some of this yourself...
As i said though some people are more emotional than other's.. But it's better to know how to control each emotion, nothing happens over night, acknowledge it and work towards bettering it for yourself and others around you.
CW