I guess I need another opinion. My husband of 20 years has a very large "extended family" by this I mean people that are not related in any way but he looks at as his family because they were there for him when he was young. This started 2 years ago when we went to the funeral of one of his "sisters" and another "sister" from FL showed up. That is how he introduced her. Since then that has been a whole lot of half truths from him. He started receiving cards and pictures from her. She sent presents and there were also phone calls. I had no problem with this because she was his "sister"
A few months ago she was coming into town with her daughter and needed someone to pick them up at the airport. My husband called me and asked if it was ok saying he didn't want to just do it then have me hear from someone else that he had done it. Red Flag! Sound like something is up to me.
So I started looking around. His myspace page had her daughter on it and they were conversing about her mother. And then she sent him and email with pictures attached. One of her mother and my husband. VERY clearly close. She was not just "sisterly" with him the used to date. First lie discovered.
So I looked at our cell phone bill detail which normally isn't on the bill but you can see it on line. seems that there were a whole lot of calls to and from FL also alot of texts. some of the calls lasted an hour and of course were during times that we were both at work.
Then I say and email that was written by my husband to her daughter (the "sister" doesn't have a computer) saying how he wishes he could go back to that time and he wonders how things would have turned out.
I busted him out on it. I am furious. To tell me she was like a sister and for two years lead me to believe that just so I would not suspect anything. Of course he says he was just talking to her and says he doesn't know how I would react if I knew the whole truth. Even tough he knows my outlook is I know you had a life before me. His EX wife comes to our house so where would this problem be?
After I confronted him he was very sorry for it or so he said, he said he loves me and wants to be with me and he realizes it was a mistake. Not buying it, he is sorry he got caught in my opinion.
He sent another email teling her daughter not to contact him until he can change his passwords or set something else up and that he was afraid I would say something to her husband or sons so if I did to just say I was and extremely jealous person and nothing was going on. (because her sons were thinking something was up according to one of her emails to my husband) He also sent her an email telling her to have her mom check her PO box that he sent her a card. Supposedly a birthday card and that he had told her in it that he could not be invloved with her any more. I told him that I didn't believe that because who would sent a Happy Birthday go away card??? and why was he sneaking to do it? Still.
There were still some calls on last months bill and he claims he doesn't remember making them?
He has become very affectionate toward me and started doing things that he has never done before like helping me out with things. I am trying to forgive him but that same feeling is still there. He says he didn't have sex with her that it was always just talking, but really would he tell me?
So what do you think? Please I need some outside opinions here.