That was my first thought but I wanted to believe that because he has told me it was just talking that I could forgive him. But I can't get it out of my head. I have been married to him for 20 years and actually together for 23. I have always felt that at least 80% of a marraige is trust. My problem is I can not trust him any more. He claims there was no sex which could be a lie. She lives in FL and I pretty much know where he is all the time. The only time I can think of that he would have had the chance is when he picked her up from the airport the last time she was here. It was also for a funeral. I went to the funeral home with him but not to the funeral. He didn't get home till like 6pm.
I have brought that up and his exact words were that after they talked at the funeral he realized then that there could be nothing between them. HOWEVER the phone calls and texts increased after that. I am sickened by the fact that her daughter is also involved. I met her the first time at the funeral home and she smiled in my face just like her mother all the while knowing what was taking place. I guess I trusted him to much.
We have 5 children that are his, mine and ours. I took care of his kids as if they were my own. One still lives with us and my youngest lives with us. It was really tearing my youngest up that this happened.
I am not worried that I could not make it on my own. I have a good job and could pay the bills. I just don't want to make a mistake and ditch 20+ years. I asked him if he was afraid of losing me or the things that we have. He said he knows he would have never had the material things we have if it wasn't for me. and that he doesn't want to lose ME he says he would sell it all.
I keep thinking because of the email saying don't reply wait until i change my passwords or something that he has set up another email address or another way of communicating even tough he says that he is not up on that stuff and doesn't want to be with her. My feeling is that she is in FL and she is married too so he feels he should stay with a sure thing.
I had told him that I forgave him just because I was going crazy having to deal with it all the time. Now I am dealing with it by myself. He never mentions it and sems to have changed.
I don't know still have that feeling. I can't trust him anymore.