That is one of the worst things you can do to someone who is cheating! haha - the reason is because once someone knows you are suspicious, they will hide what they are doing better! Many women don't know if they are correct or not in their suspicions, so they just want to be sure since they are afraid of being paraniod.

I check my husband's email, not so much anymore but I did after he cheated... I used to trust blindly, I suppose my feelings towards it now is "trust but verify".

I used to say "without trust, how can there be love?" but now I see that sometimes we love the person even though we don't trust them (we want to trust them).

Of course, I don't think it's a good idea for us to go spying on people,but sometimes we do things that are wrong yet our reasons justify our act (even though I know that is wrong)...

...I don't feel guilty...