My husband cheated on me, and this all sounds pretty close to how it was with him! I was unable to forgive him (though I tried) and we ended up seperating. I would suggest serperating from anyone who cheated.

When I left my husband I was able to figure out what I wanted... did I want to be single? Did I want to date someone else? Did I want to be with my husband?

My husband was also able to figure things out, did he really want to be with me or did he want to start over with someone else?

We were apart for 3months and my husband, during that time, went to church, called me daily (though I never talked to him much), emailed me and swore he had changed and now knows he never wants to be apart from me.

I was pregnant during that time and lost my baby, when we lost the pregnancy was the first time we were together since the split and decided we both wanted to be together.

I told him he would have to regain my trust, and had he done ANYTHING that I would consider a redflag, it would be over, I wouldn't even wait around to make sure I was right.

I told him I would be checking on him, but never gave details.

Somehow I have come to trust him again, but I put a keylogger on my computer and used to check his email daily, now I check it every once and awhile to keep peace of mind... I feel that soon I might even be able to trust him fully again, and stop checking his emails and checking on him...

My advice would be to leave him.