Women's Health Support Forums - View Single Post - M-N-L and S-N-L drives me crazy

Martinm · #1 05-12-2008, 02:51 PM

Hi,

I am new to this! I am 34 years old and have been married to my high school sweetheart for 12 years. He is such a wonderful husband and Father. We have a daughter is 10 and a son who 5. They are my life! I come from a big family! I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters. My husband has the one sister who is 5 years younger, and thinks she has to be the center of attention at all times! She has a daughter who is 10 months younger than my daughter. She is also on her second marriage and has an adorable 10 month old! She cheated on her first husband! She has always tried to come between my m-n-l and me! She has actually accomplished it. I try so hard and it is never enough! Sometimes I think it is getting better with them then they say or do something ******. It got worse when my daughter was born and then she had her daughter. I also live across the road from my m-n-l. That is probably a big mistake. My s-n-l use to leave her daughter with my m-n-l all the time. My m-n-l always compares my two kids to either my s-n-l or my niece! At one time when we would visit my m-n-l, she would talk about my niece ever other breathes. I did finally confront them at one time after my s-n-l sent us an invitation to my In-laws 25 wedding anniversary! That put me over the edge. She wanted all the credit and she got it! She didn't even try to contact my husband on this. My brothers and sister always do stuff together. Well my m-n-l says stuff all the time and does stuff! It would take me a year to tell you all the stuff they have done to me and my kids! The night after the anniversary party! I told my husband I couldn’t take it no more and he went with me and confronted them. I told them how I felt and they knew there was friction! I do believe my M-n-l didn’t realize how bad she was acting toward me and the kids. I think my s-n-l is just a very spiteful person! It did get some what better. But it didn’t seem to last long. I don’t think they will ever change. My m-n-l always gives her the praise and glory for everything. My daughter is very smart and creative. She is in the gifted. My m-n-l told me the other day that the kids must get there creativeness from my s-n-l being my husband and I didn’t draw. Everything is about my s-n-l and niece. Last mother’s day I got my m-n-l a beautiful gift basket from bath and body works for mother’s day! It wasn’t the right kind so she took it back the next day and kept the basket. She bought my s-n-l some bath stuff for her birthday and put it in the basket I gave. Her birthday is like 4 days after mother’s day! I had actually already bought some bath stuff from there for my s-n-l for her birthday, but she still went and got more bath stuff after I stated I had gotten her that. She told me she was going to give s-n-l the basket because she really didn’t need it. Well by this time I have gotten on nerve pills and just tried to forget about. She has always done junk like this. Thank God for Crazy pills. Well I told my husband to ask his mom what she wanted this year, and he said he didn’t do mothers day! I said that is fine with me not to get her anything. I wasn’t even going to attempt. He did round up asking her and she said she would like a manicure and pedicure from this particular place so we went by and got it ($60.00) ouch. My s-n-l called the day before and asked my husband what we got her for mother’s day and he told her. Well the next day when they came (they live 2 hours away). She had two things that she had gotten her from Bath and Body Works, and then she broke out all her nail and toe stuff and personally gave her mom pedicure. Maybe I am crazy for feeling this away but that burned me up. The fact knowing that we had went out and paid 60 dollars and she is going to come and rub it all in my face. After about 30 minutes of listening and watching I had to get up and go home! My husband thought it was funny! He knew it made me mad. I promise you she will get the praise. She has always gotten money from them and has never done anything to help them! It is always me and my husband. I can’t tell you all of the meals I have cooked for my F-N-L because my m-n-l would be gone somewhere. She never lifts her finger to help her mom! Do you any of you think I am crazy for feeling like I do! It would have been different if she had not known what we got her I could have understood. She hasn’t never in her life given her mom a pedicure. I will calm day in a day or too. I often wonder how in the world my husband came from that family. It is like daylight and dark between them. This isn't even half of the stuff I have had to deal with. I probably could write a book. Am I crazy? Any advice would be appreciated. I hate to be a fake but for my husbands sake I have too. Thanks