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**Uneeklyme** · #2 05-13-2008, 12:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Little

A member of my family's child was molested by another under-18 member of his household. I just found this out today. I feel like I'm going to puke ... that's how his mother feels too.
The victim is only 5 years old, the molester junior high-aged and with a history of incest molestation. He had received counseling but apparently didn't recover.
Do you think that the victim will remember it? What can the family do to make it better? The older boy is going to be leaving the household, obviously.
It just makes me sick. I can't believe that there are people out there who do things like this. Something must have happened to this boy to make him so messed up, but I'm angry that he's a minor and thus might have a chance to work with children in the future.

Oh little... I am so sorry for you and yours.

I am not going to go into details but my family has been through this as well. The end result for the molestor... it ate him up. He turned to drugs to "forget" life by the time he was 14. A couple of rocky years then one night he disappeard from home. Two years later two hunters found his remains in a field where he had shot himself on the night he disappeared. As for the one molested... she was young when it happened. She told after he disappeared but she had no way of knowing he didnt know she had told. Not more than a week ago she asked if his suicide was her fault for telling. She has been through counseling and is very timid and shy to date. She does remember tho. Just show as much love as possible to this little one, make sure she knows it was not her fault, believe in her and what she says.

I totally understand the wanting to puke. I feel for you and his mother and your family, especially the little girl and the boy as well. He is still a child. I know its hard to look at him and not be fearful and hateful. Its unfortunate he was allowed into a situation he had already proven he could not be in.

I dont know what to say really. **hug** Just really sorry you have to go through this. Don't let it eat you. Maybe get some help to deal with feelings you have now and many that will come. Keep your support close. Best of luck to you and yours.