I figured if anyone was going to get me on that one it would be you... I guess I did not get the feeling of "urgency" in the post. Or maybe I was just misreading it...It was around this age when that woman made a big play for my sailor....With this in mind if I had known this at the time I would be a basket case...But maybe she is too. Only when you fear the loss of someone that you love to another woman, does the hair on the back of your neck stand straight up....Maybe she does feel this...Then add the thought of another woman being carressed and loved the way that he has done to you and you just can't sleep....

This is something that he and she must talk about...She must be able to walk away from this conversation with complete trust in him and know that she is the queen of all his thoughts and another woman does not enter into any of his sexual thoughts. These are the things that are necessary to go forward in a marriage that has been slightly fractured...They both are not children...They both have another marriage in back of them and now it is time for them both to figure out if this is good or not....

Again just my thoughts on this......but I did mess up on the spooning...

C