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Originally Posted by williams9
Me and my sister have been fighting for a while now. We haven't talked since March. She treats me like I am 8, she talks to me like I am a little girl, and everything I have--she needs to top it. My husband and I are very happy, and have a very good relationship. She doesn't believe us since I am only 20. She can't imagine someone being this happy. I am not the type to tell you I am okay if I'm not. I wear my emotions on my sleeve...I am not faking it. But the real problem is she and my mom did something behind my back. I confronted them and they lied about it. I have proof that they agreed never to tell me the truth. After this confrontation she just brushes me off as a liar and is mad at me for the whole thing. I tried to talk to her, but I am the only one in the wrong and I am the one who needs to apologize. Since she is older she thinks she knows better than me. When I try to talk to her she just acts like I am too sensitive and that I am taking everything the wrong way. I have other family members who witness these things happening and they agree with me that she not being nice to me. I am to the point where I don't like talking to her. I hate being like that---but what can I do? any one have any advice?
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I hesitated answering this preferring the younger viewpoint, but seeing nobody has answered it I will offer my words...
It seems to me like you have a very jealous sister. I think you have what she would love to have, and she just can't accept it..As for your Mother, I think she is afraid of abandonment and she will do anything to hold on to her crutch in life...I would not trust either one of them any farther than you can throw them...I guess I have a story similar to yours. I have a sister too. All my life my Mother favored her over me...Everything was for her.. I was the middle child...She was younger and cuter and in my Mother's mind, should have been a movie star....I fended for myself... When I met and married my husband, I, like you became the happiest woman in the world...Just like your having problems making them believe how happy you are, I had the same problems... I am truly the happiest woman in the world...With saying this, I will allow you to be #2 in happiness....
Honey, enjoy your life with your husband...Until the day my Mother died, some 25 years ago, she was not truthful to me...She just believed my sister...Anything I would say didn't matter, but what she said, did...
Until I was able to stand back and be myself, and forget the hurt that they could cause me, could I proceed in life to be all that I could be....And may I add that life is good....After all these years I am still madly in love with my sailor...
Have fun and forget about what you can not change...I know that there will be hurt but cling to the one who loves you...He is your anchor....Stay happy.....
Much love to you....Caroline