My fiance has a very interesting father. At first I thought it was just me but as I began to meet the family they all asked the same question "How you like his dad?" He is such a hard man to deal with never wrong and still treats my fiance like a kid. My personality type loves to talk and be around people but I cannot talk to this man. Everything is a debate. He is very intrusive. Makes off the wall comeHe asks personal questions about the status of our relationship. There is so much more I cannot even figure out where to starte. There have been many incidents where he has overstepped his bounds but last night was the last straw.

We just got a new house and his sister wanted to see it. In the pit of my stomach I knew his father was going to tag along. He got there chatted with my fiance for a bit and then said "Excuse us I need to talk to my kids outside. It's a family matter. You don't mind do you?" I looked at hime literally speechless and then at my fiance who said nothing. He never says anything. I had cooked before they came over and we were supposed to be celebrating my last day of class for my Master's degree. That was shot to . His father ruined what was supposed to be the first worry and obligation free evening I have had in 2 years. I just wanted it to be me and my fiance. When they left they didn't even come in and say goodbye to me. He treated me like that in my home and my fiance said nothing. Afterwards my fiance said that I was making a big deal out of nothing when i told him the "It's a family matter" comment hurt me. Makes me question why he is so eager to come to his defense and not mine. When am I really family?

Now I see that I have to just stay out of his presence and I am done trying to be nice to this man. It makes me so thankful for my father. But I'm worried about how this will work out down the road. Will I blow up eventually?