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Originally Posted by Ravsoma
Anon-
Do I like 25? I'll take that as a compliment and the nicest thing you've ever said. Ever. And I won't say that to my dad because he'll just deny it. "He's always right."
CW-
That all sounds good, but I'm my mother's only child (father's 4th) and I'm scared to leave her by herself. My parents are old (59 and 66) and they're both wearing down a bit, but I do care about my mother more than my father. Only because I love her and she does pay for my way in life and puts me in front of EVERYTHING. Him on the other hand, not so.
I wouldn't mind moving out, but I have everything calculated in my life that I can't. Like I said, my mother pays my way. My tuition is high (13k/year) and next year in college, it'll be ever higher. The two schools I want to go to are about 22k a year and I don't want to take out loans and be stuck in debt for the rest of my life. Hitting 45 and still paying college loans is not cool. Plus, my mother wouldn't let me work, let alone move out. I can't work because I have school to concentrate on and I can't move out for obvious reasons.
I can't live with grandparents because one of my grandfathers is dead, the other one is about to die, one grandmother in Barbados, and the other in North Carolina and she needs someone to take care of her and I live all the way in Connecticut.
I'm spending some time with my aunt and uncle in VA Beach for two weeks, but I can't live with them. They've free spirits and there is a reason they've never had kids.
Plus... I'm not ready to leave the nest, yet.
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Well, i'm going to say two things....
1) Then give him what for when he's being a ................. Keep it in your pants or in the bedroom Dad.
2) Your goals are really high, not a bad thing, but Mum's paying for it all, as your her only child and obviously that is where all her love is going, onto you, and she won't let you get a part time job?
Get one. Lots of people study and hard, and work part time jobs. Don't get firstly stuck in the situation that your Mother has given you everything in your life, so you expect the same from the men in your life and can't stand on your own two feet AND, sorry, but Mum's are Mums she's one of a giver but whilst she's giving to you, what is she giving to herself? Satisfaction of helping her baby? Get a part time job and give her the money for household food/expenses and tell her you want to work for some independance and to learn the outside world in preperation for later in life as frankly you do...
You need to give back to her now, your old enough and you need to also stand on your own two feet and start learning that part of life, finances, it will do you good as well.
And, don't come back and shoot me either, because the above is reality.
I bet, she sees a dress she wants and says i can't because i have to save the $12k, for my daughter...
Things we don't think about hey... We assume.... Don't assume, she needs your help and you need to learn what it's like in the big wide world as well...
CW