Originally Posted by Inconsistent

Triumph through struggle is what strengthens a bond, so dead end crappy jobs secured IMO should be fine for getting married so long as each can handle their own affairs independently of eachother. That allows for splurging and vacations and whatnot instead of the typical grind.

Absolutely agree..

What I meant by "forget what everyone's told you for a moment" is to imply that no one elses suggestions should influence your decision to get married. Atleast that's my outlook on it.

Yes, a lot of people take advice as gospil, where as i always think, advice is to then be weighed up, thought about, and ultimately make your own decision from there.

And hey, the worst that's gunna happen is you'll get a divorce, but if neither of you can sustain yourselves, a divorce can complicate things quite a bit. It'll complicate things anyway, but if you have no money ontop of that and one person relies on the other or it's just a mess from the get go, things will be unnecessarily rough.

Again, i am aware that forgetting time, or children, money has been an issue as to why they feel they "can't get a divorce", as they have no money to move, no place to live, no finances to make a new start, so okay, sound advice.

So, if this applies -
take care of myself? Check
Takes care of his/herself? Check
Want to get married? Check

Get married. We aint here too terribly long barring tragedy, but no one's immune to tragedy so get a move on, enjoy it, but don't be caught with your pants down is all I'm saying.

That scares me, but that's life isn't it....

Life isn't easy, isn't always fun, hard work is inevitable especially at first, so why not go through all of that together?