You poor thing.. What a delima to be in... Are you being selfish? No way.. She is being a "user" full stop.

Playing on people's sub-conscious, guilt trips?

The hard part is you can't move away from her and your in a small location so your right, when one is done with her, she'll rotate.

The good thing is if you all ( three of you ) feel the same and do the same, then she's outed full stop and can't rely on any of you... Or, as she burns one, she'll go onto the next, burn them, onto the last, burn them and then where is she to go from there? The cycle in other words has to end at some point.

However, i am sensing a feel of kindness in you... Your not as straight forward with her as you want to be and hense, leaving that door open for her to in-fact come back when it fails in the other directions.

Why not have a discussion with the other two ladies? See, if you all feel totally the same?

Then if so, with that understanding, you all play:-

With your dates, make them expensive ones, regardless of the petrol thing, things she can't afford or won't want to afford to spend her money on, even though that's not your plans, make believe they are... Surely, if she's a tight fist with money, she would be making excuses as to why she can't join you all... But then you go off and do what you want to do instead... Of course, know a bit about what you were meant to do...

I think you need to discuss this with the other ladies so you are all on the same wave length, and work together on solutions together...

She will stop coming over, maybe even move now wouldn't that be nice.

Make yourselves like the witches of eastwood, lol... and sweep her away....

CW