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Originally Posted by momo0007
Hi all,
I'm a just married man and am having some difficulties with in-law problems.
There's no problems between me and my in-laws but my parents and my wife's parents recently went on a holidays together and there were some clashes.
My wife's parents have been telling my wife some bad things about my parents, a lot of which I feel are untrue after I heard what my parents said. But my wife is really closed to her parents and I don't think what I said will change her thinking. I really want to tell my wife what my parents told me but experience is whatever I tell my wife will be passed onto her parents which may just make things worse.
On the other hand, I don't want any misunderstanding between my wife and my parents.
What should I do? Very stressed and confused and I really want everybody to get along.
Any advice? Thanks in advance.
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First, I can't imagine a better way to arm a time bomb then for the two couples to go on a Holiday together...That is like having the Nitro within arm's length...
From being in the place where you are talking about, there is truly no good way out...It is like a Dodge City shoot out....No winner, only loser's...
The very best advice I can give you is for you and your wife to have a truce...Make it a lifetime pact....Whatever your parents say about me or my parents that would hurt me, keep it to yourself...Don't ever tell me....I, in turn will do the same for you....I married you and not your parents...I love you and that is what counts....I only want to know all the good things about you...Not them or that they do not care for me for some reason....Then stick by it....Don't break the rule and pretend that in some special times that they don't exist...Stay away from the duel gatherings as much as you can.....I wish you well...
Take care, Caroline......(I will be married 50 years very soon to the same man and we kind of followed these rules)