Because you are newly married it is normal that the old alliances, each of you to your parents, has been running longer and may be stronger for now than your new alliances, the two of you as a married couple.

This may be a good learning time to strengthen this new married relationship. You could approach your wife with the idea of being able to talk to each other, as in this situation to clear the air with the understanding that this info. doesn't go back to the parents. I would tread a little carefully though and make it clear that you are not looking for a winner here or taking sides, your parents over hers. Just give her the information so she doesn't feel badly towards your parents, making it very clear though that you are not taking sides and looking for a winner. Afer all it is your wife and your self that are important here not the in laws, they are only in laws because of your reletionship together.

Sometimes parents find it hard to let go initially and this quoble between the in laws and them telling you both about it may be both or one of the couples checking their 'child' although married is still on their side.

You need to be able to talk about what you want together in a way that respects the others feelings and this is something that needs to be practiced.

Good luck and congrats. on the marriage.

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