we all have built into us mechanisms that are designed to protect us from potential harm.

we also have the ability to ignore those mechanisms - often to our detriment.

the red flag you're experiencing about your husband expending his sexual energy on something other than his wife is there for a reason. it's like you are holding your hand on a hot stove - and something's telling you to move it.

you don't have to, but if you don't, you'll disfigure yourself & experience a lot of pain.

there's nothing harmless about what porn can do to your marriage & your husband, especially.

my advice, listen to your intuitive urge to deal with this.

i promise you, it won't go away. you might choose not to look at it, but it will NOT disappear.

and odds are, if you do ignore it, you'll be forced to look at it one day & it will look much uglier than it does now.

i wouldn't tell you to blow up & leave. it's a problem, that's all. you & your husband with both have lots of them over the duration of your marriage. treat it as such, no less - but no more.