I met a man who I am deeply in love with at college. He is still at college, and I got done in last month, and my mother came to help me move to where my new job is 2 hours away. I have yet to find an apartment and my job starts on June 23rd (this Monday), so I'm running out of time.
I left my college town just 2 days ago, and before I left, my boyfriend and I had a big fight. He was at his apartment, and long story short, he was feeling very threatened about our relationship because my mother thinks that he is a distraction. I was staying at the hotel with my mom (not enough room at my small college apt) and I was gonna go over to my boyfriend's place at around 11- he was going to help me look at apartments. Since my mother and I are in the same room, I told her I was going, and she said I shouldn't because I need to concentrate on finding a place for my move. I told her that's what we were going to do, and she said it's your choice, but you can just do it tomorrow and get some rest tonight. So I listened and cancelled on my boyfriend. (Note: I don't think I did the right thing, I come from a very close, conservative family).
My boyfriend then got upset, and began to feel insecure about our relationship, saying that I was an adult and could make my own decision. He kept asking me to come over and said that he needed me, not to look at apartments anymore, but that he needed to just see me, for reassurance. I never went, and my mother was awake most of the time I was speaking to my boyfriend since we were in the same room (we talked until about 5 a.m., she was awake till about 3). She knew what was happening, because ly, I told her. I shouldn't have. Anyway, she doesn't realize that going to someone's house at 3 a.m. in a safe college town is normal when you're a student, so this made her see my boyfriend in a whole new light.
He and I then had a huge emotional fight because he said I wasn't there when he needed to just see me for a few minutes for reassurance, but then a few days later we talked, and decided to keep speaking, but to just take it slow (don't think my mom was thrilled about this). Now here is the problem:
I am now in the place where my job is, staying at a hotel there, 2 hours from my college. My boyfriend's birthday is on Saturday, and it is really important to me to be there for him and drive down. My mother is still here though. She was going to leave earlier to visit my brother in California, but she might not be now because she is worried about my move since I have not yet found a place. She is here for me basically and she is still very upset with the boyfriend situation.
Here is my question: is there any way at all, that I can go see my boyfriend on Saturday, without her getting upset? I feel like if I go, it defeats the very purpose of her extending her trip, maybe in a way betrays her. But if I don't go, it will just drive my boyfriend and I further apart... I am not ready for that...
but I can't hurt my mom either... I don't know what to do. She won't have anything to do here if I leave since she knows noone, even though it will be just for the day or to spend the night...